Thursday, 8 May 2008
Mississippi
The Diocesan Youth Exchange between the Diocese of **** and the Episcopal Diocese of Mississippi was organised by T. The reason for the project is that there are very few young adults involved in church life and this is on opportunity to encourage them to stay involved with the church. Some of the aims of the project were: "To develop the ability to reflect systematically upon another cultural context" and "To explore particularly the interplay of understanding, tolerance and respect in a community's sociopolitical development". We also wanted to look at what sort of provision for youth and young people there was within the church in Mississippi.
The first thing that hit us when we got off the plane was the heat. We arrived in Mississippi during a heat wave and throughout most of the trip we experienced temperatures in the nineties/hundreds with the high humidity making it feel hotter. Mississippi is in what is known as the "Deep South" of the United States of America and is one of the poorest states having never fully recovered from the collapse of slavery at the end of the American Civil War in 1865. It is a very rural state with the main crops being cotton, rice, soya beans and corn (sweetcorn). Apart from about half a dozen urban areas, most of the major towns are a similar size to **** or smaller. With a population of 2.6 million in an area similar to England, it is a much more sparsely populated area and because of this everything is much larger and more spread out making it virtually impossible to go anywhere without a car.
The month long visit was divided into three parts. The first week was a whirlwind tour of Mississippi which also included an overnight visit to New Orleans in Louisiana. This enabled us to get a good overview of Mississippi and its history and also compare it with a neighbouring state.
The second part consisted of two one week individual placements at different churches throughout the state. My first week was with St Peter's by the Lake, Brandon which was near Jackson and I stayed with a family living in Canton (where "My Dog Skip" was filmed). The second week I was at Epiphany Church, Tunica which is very close to Memphis. (By American standards that is: It was a thirty minute drive away!) Tunica County used to be the poorest county in the United States. Since the introduction of casinos this has changed dramatically (and controversially) with for example an 80% reduction in unemployment from 1992 to 1998.
The final week was spent in Jackson working at a variety of different ministries. Over the weekend three members of the group went on Cursillo whilst the rest of us took part in a Vocare weekend. The Vocare movement is for 18 to 30 year olds and deals with issues such as vocational discernment. It is run by young people who have been on the weekends in the past.
When we arrived in Mississippi the people were very welcoming. We were met by JG, W and J who drove us back to the lodge where we met some more people and were given dinner. They were all really friendly and we thought it was strange that they were giving us hugs when we had only just met them. We soon learnt that in Mississippi they use hugs in a similar way that we would use a handshake.
The next morning we went to Saint Andrew's Cathedral in Jackson where we met the two Bishops. One is the presiding bishop and the other is bishop coadjudicator until the current one dies/retires/resigns when he will become the new presiding bishop. We were given a guided tour of the Cathedral which was originally just a church and has many 'English' characteristics such as stained glass windows depicting many key biblical scenes.
For lunch we had 'soul food' (which is "home cooked style food in the African American tradition") at Peaches on Fair Street. This is 'downtown' which is the 'black' area of town. Not very many whites go down there (we didn't see any other white people while we there) and apparently until very recently if someone said they had been down Fair Street you would say something like, "Glad you made it through" or, "What did you lose?" due to the high crime rate in the area. There were lots of 'shotgun shacks' around there which are wooden houses with three or four rooms where you have to walk through each room to get to the next one. It was a complete contrast with the large houses we had seen earlier and we were told that all the people living in them would be black. In the afternoon we went to two museums which helped to give us an overview of the history of Mississippi.
When we returned to the lodge, we were given a talk on race relations by EW. She said that growing up in Mississippi it is very difficult for a person not to be racist. She said that if she was walking down the street at night, she would be more scared if she saw a black man than if she saw a white man even though she doesn't want to be like that. I think that a lot of white people misinterpret the fact that most criminals are black and consciously or subconsciously draw the conclusion that most blacks must be criminals or that they are criminals because they are black rather than because of other effects (such as poverty, lack of education etc.). E told us that her parents were "liberal" and had sent her to a state school and allowed her to have friends of any colour. Even so, when she was in third grade (equivalent of second year junior) and a black boy cycled round to her house to play, her mother said that he should not come round again. This was not because she didn't want him there but because she feared for his safety: If a black boy was seen riding a bike in a 'white' area, people would assume he had stolen it. This means that although there is no longer legal segregation, there is still very much social segregation. In retrospect, excluding the people we met at the various ministries or whom we met specifically to talk about the issue of race, we met no black people. This is because the Episcopal Church is predominantly white and most white people do not seem to have any black friends.
On Friday morning we set off to Vicksburg where we were given a tour of the civil war battlefield park. Everything was extremely well recorded. There were red/blue markers to mark the lines of the confederate/union troops and there were stone markers for many of the battalions where they had been stationed. In addition to this, each state is allowed to have a large memorial. Most of the memorials were from the North and the civil war seems to be very important to the people in the United States. Later on we went to Christ Church and we also visited an Episcopal Church just down the road which was set up to be an 'African-American' church and still has a predominantly black congregation today.
That night we were divided up to stay at different peoples houses and were well looked after. Some of us returned with plenty of food for the journey. It would have been virtually impossible to starve whilst we were staying in Mississippi. We quickly discovered that Southern Hospitality is not renowned for nothing!
On Saturday we drove up through the Delta to Moon Lake stopping off at TCBY, Walmart, a Mall, the Delta Blues Museum and Coahoma. Walmart was very different to what I had expected. I expected it to be similar to the Hypermarket I had been to in France but it was nothing like it. The aisles were very high and quite narrow. It was difficult to find anything as there were lots of disjoint sections and there were no signs. In the Mall we saw a shop called "The Athlete's Foot" which we found quite amusing.
Coahoma is a very small mainly black town which Habitat for Humanity has helped to transform. Habitat for Humanity works to help people to own their own homes. They only build houses for people who are in inadequate housing for their needs but have a job. The houses are built mainly by volunteers and the homeowners also have to put in around 500 hours of 'sweat equity' into their house or other peoples. They then pay back the cost of the house through an interest free loan. The project is not just about building houses but is also about building communities and getting rid of crime so that people can have pride in their neighbourhood rather than living in fear. Coahoma is particularly interesting because Habitat started there as an experiment to see whether such a project could be sustained by such a small population. It had previously been thought that you needed an area to have a certain population before it could sustain development of Habitat but the project in Coahoma has been an incredible success.
The next morning we went to the Church of the Advent before visiting Mississippi State Penitentiary. From the outside the church looked like a shack and we thought that it would have no air conditioning but when we got inside, we found that it was quite modern and it was just panelling on the outside. The sermon was about open and tight fistedness and the fact that if you do not have your hands open to give then you will not be able to receive either.
Mississippi State Penitentiary is 14 square miles big and houses between five and six thousand prisoners at any one time. We were given a tour by LH who spoke to us about the death penalty. He had witnessed the first execution after it was reintroduced and he said that just before it happened he got this terrible feeling that it was wrong. He said that they had a priest there so that after the gas chamber had been cleared of gas, he could go in and administer the last rites. After witnessing an execution, he said that he could not condone capital punishment and that it was murder by the state.
We then drove all the way back to Jackson and arrived just in time for an Independence Day celebration at St James' Church. The service was quite good but there was one bit where they played the anthems of the different military services and veterans from those services stood up when there anthem was played and everyone clapped. I did not really like it as it was glorifying war and I do not believe that war is right. Apart from that I enjoyed the evening.
On Monday morning we set off to New Orleans. The roads in Louisiana were in much worse condition than the ones in Mississippi and we were told that it is because when the drinking age was raised from 18 to 21, federal money for roads was withheld until the states complied and Louisiana did not comply for a long time. Even now it is not very strictly enforced.
We stayed in the French Quarter of New Orleans where the style of the buildings was very different. It did not feel like we were in the United States. There also seemed to be a lot more different coloured people in the streets going about doing ordinary things whereas in Mississippi there seemed to be 'white' and 'black' areas. We did not have any specific organised tours in New Orleans and it was nice to be able to just wander round looking at things at our own speed. We went to the Cathedral and we wandered round the streets and shops. It was like no place I have ever been to. There were loads of voodoo shops and there were people on the streets doing tarot and crystal ball readings and voodoo and weird stuff like that.
On Tuesday we travelled to Trinity Church in Yazoo City where we were picked up by the various people we were staying with and then taken to farm/plantation where they were having a picnic and fireworks display for the fourth of July. The firework display was really good especially considering it was a private one. The next day we were given a short tour of Trinity Church and Yazoo City and then after lunch we were collected by our hosts for the first week.
During my week at St Peter's by the Lake, I took part in/visited a number of different ministries and other activities. These included Stewpot (which provides a day centre for 'senior citizens', the mentally handicapped, and children; a food pantry and clothing closet; meals on wheels; a shelter for women and various other similar things); Ballet Magnificat which is a Christian Ballet Company set up by a lady who gave up a very promising ballet career in order to do it; Habitat for Humanity; Hope House (a house in Jackson for people from out of town who can't afford accommodation to stay in while they are having cancer treatment); visits to Canton town square, Grace Church, Canton and an Antebellum home; Bible studies; visiting someone in hospital; litter picking; going out for dinner with some local high school students; going shopping in an absolutely MASSIVE Christian book store; and of course going to church on Sunday morning. I was very sad to leave my host family and I wished I could have stayed longer.
We all returned to the Gray Center on the Tuesday afternoon and spent the evening catching up with each other and brainstorming next year's return visit with the Mississippians to see what sort of things they wanted to do/we wanted to show them/was viable. The next day we all gave talks on our weeks and it seemed like everyone had had a really good time. After lunch I was the first to leave as my hosts had brought someone back the day before and stayed overnight in Jackson. I was not expecting it to be as good as the first week but it was.
My hosts were DT and MT. DT has been Rector at Epiphany Church for a year and they have both lived all over the United States. As Tunica is so small (The biggest town has a population of 1200!), there is not the variety of ministries that there is in a place like Jackson. One afternoon I was shown round the town and given a little local history by the sheriff and I also spent an afternoon at the literacy council which provides day care for children and education for people who have left high school without a high school diploma. Their main aim is to make sure everyone can read but they also help people to get the GED (the equivalent of the high school diploma).
Over the weekend I stayed with a different family and went out with their daughter (M) who is in high school. On the Saturday we visited Graceland which M had never done before despite living there all her life as she had never been able to convince anyone to go with her. On the Monday morning they took me to the Christian Brothers University in Memphis where I was shown round by a girl who is also doing chemistry. It was really small and they seem to do much less hours per week here (usually 15 or 18).
While I was in Tunica, I had many interesting conversations with people about race. T (M's mum) said that she was happy that M has friends who are all different colours at boarding school in Atlanta but she said that she wouldn't want any of her non-white friends to come home with her to visit as she said it would be dangerous for them. She also said that she hoped M didn't have a 'mixed' marriage as she said that they would probably find that they were not socially accepted by either whites or blacks. It is difficult to know whether that was the real reason.
MT said that she often finds people's attitudes unbelievable. For instance, there was an old lady in town who was ill and she had a black lady who looked after her and she wanted to come to church so another lady came to speak to MT and she said it was fine and the lady said but what about S? And she said,” Well S can sit with me; I don't mind." and they said but what about communion and MT said she could have it just the same as everyone normally does and the lady said that they couldn't do that because it was 'wrong' for black and white people to take communion together but when MT asked why, the lady couldn't give a reason, she said it just was. MT also told me that when she was leaving to come to Mississippi, she told some of her friends that they could come and visit her and was astonished when her black friends said that there was no way they would go to Mississippi. She said they told her to change things and then they would visit her but some of them had had bad experiences when travelling in Southern states in the past and did not want to repeat them.
On the last morning, I got up early to go horse riding before being driven back to the lodge near Jackson. Although I was glad to see the others again I was sad to be leaving people (and dogs) behind. The next day was a day off which included shopping in Jackson and at a mall and taking over someone's back garden and swimming pool!
I spent Thursday and Friday on Habitat sites with B and F and Monday and Tuesday at Shoestring which was a summer school/day camp in Jackson. I was with five, six and seven year olds and they were all desperate for attention and very loving. I found myself instantly surrounded by children and there were almost fights breaking out over who could sit next to me. On one of the days, two children asked me to pray with them and it was amazing listening to a child not asking for things for themselves but asking God "don't let no killers come and don't let no robbers come or no murderers". I wished I could have spent longer there.
At the weekend while T, P, S and L were on Cursillo, the rest of us took part in a mini Vocare weekend. It was about vocation and discerning God's call in your life. Topics covered included Identity, What is a Christian?, Laity, Ordination, Marriage and Spiritual Journey.
On the Monday evening, we met the Rector of a church which had grown dramatically in the space of about ten years. On Tuesday evening we had a special evening on race relations where Dr AG, a lady who had had to fight her way through life to get anywhere spoke to us about her life and what it was like growing up in segregated Vicksburg. It was very telling that JG said this was the only event in the whole month where he had invited loads of Mississippians and not one of them had turned up. AG said that the white people need to give up race and the black people need to give up race which I think is very true. Until I went to Mississippi I had never really noticed race that much (no more than hair colour or eye colour or any other physical characteristics) but now I notice it more and I think that it is probably hard for people who have been brought up in that way to forget everything that they have learnt and done up 'til now.
On our last full day, we visited Camp Bratton-Green before going to the final farewell party and service. It was said to be leaving all the people we had come to know so well over our month in Mississippi.
Mississippi is sometimes referred to as the buckle of the Bible Belt and it would be true to say that most people seem to be Christians. Because of this people are more open about their faith but also have a strong sense of denominational identity. When introduced to people they would often say that they were an Episcopalian/Methodist/Baptist etc. whereas it would be unusual in this country when meeting someone for the first time to say "I am an Anglican" or even "I am a Christian". The greater social acceptability of Christianity means that it is easier for young people to be involved in the church but there is also a lot more available on a Diocesan level. Camp Bratton-Green (the Episcopal Church's summer camp) is probably the only place I will ever see a bishop being thrown into a swimming pool!
Wednesday, 7 May 2008
Slow and Steady Get Me Ready
I would not say the book is quite as good as the description on Amazon claims but it was definitely worth buying. I do not do all of the activities as some are a bit too finicky and some are things that I was already doing (such as "This Little Piggy went to Market" for example) but I have found it useful as it has given me a lot of ideas which I wouldn't have thought of myself. A particular favourite at the moment is a game where I hide an object under something like a cushion and then Baby Girl has to find it.
I think as I get on to the older activities I will probably not find them as useful because I trained as an infants teacher so would have been able to think of those activities myself but I would definitely recommend it to those who have small children unless they have spent lots of time working with children over the full age range already.
Wonderwash
Living without a washing machine
Making progress
Wet washing
So far we've had the wonderwash for a couple of weeks now I think but I have still not made my mind up about it. I will try to do a comparison between the wonderwash and handwashing in the bath:
- It does get the clothes cleaner than I expected but I think that the work involved is probably similar in quantity to washing in the bath but more difficult because it is concentrated in turning the crank with your arm and it is harder than you expect.
- Possibly less water is used but this is difficult to judge as the loads are smaller and I usually find I have to do 2-3 rinses rather than 1-2.
- The loads you can do at once are much smaller which means you have to do more frequent washes and be more organised about it.
- Each load is fairly quick to do however because the loads are smaller I think it probably works out similar total amount of time spent.
- The wonderwash is enclosed so you do not have a steaming bath creating condensation everywhere. (Although I did decide I was washing with rather hot water so I'm trying to do it with *warm* rather than *hot* water.)
Actually, now that I've written that list, I would probably say that for the most part it is easier just to wash your clothes in the bath. I do think it is useful for times when you want to wash a small amount of particularly dirty stuff (like when we went to a friends house and Baby Girl crawled around the garden getting mud all over her clothes and managed to get strawberry all down her front because I forgot to take a bib) but for large quantities of washing which is of average dirtiness I think washing in the bath is easier.
Now that I'm using warm rather than hot water I've started using Brandy's method of washing which is to get in and stomp on the clothes. It's much easier and more effective and it makes me think of wine pressing. I don't let her climb in to help but Baby Girl loves to "help" with the washing mainly by throwing all of her bath toys in with the clothes:
Not getting a lot done
Unfortunately although the actual cold is not making me feel particularly ill, it has been keeping me awake at night so I've ended up quite tired. Yesterday I planned to do quite a lot but ended up sleeping for the full two hours of Baby Girl's nap and was still exhausted.
I don't feel so bad today but I've decided to take it easy and not aim to get stuff done apart from the basics. That way if I get half what I would normally done I'll feel like I've achieved something and because I'll have been doing it more leisurely it won't make me feel as tired as if I did the same amount but had been trying to do more. I don't know if it's reverse psychology or something but it works for me.
Our veg box comes at lunchtime so I'm going to do a casserole with chicken legs and random veg for dinner as I can sit and prepare it quite slowly and then just stick it in the oven. We had some mashed potato in the freezer (from when someone gave us loads of potatoes) so I've got some of that out to go with it.
A couple of people have asked me questions which I'll try to get around to answering this afternoon.
Friday, 2 May 2008
Thursday, 1 May 2008
Daily Schedule
Here is my current schedule:
The reason there is a lot of generic "jobs" is that apart from Daily and weekly jobs, I don't have a set system of what jobs I do when - I just look around and decide what needs doing and I also have a "To Do" list where I write down any one-off/irregular jobs I need to do.
Activities with 1yo is play activities but I try to include a good range of activities to help her learn and develop. I try to do some more structured activities instigated by me and some where I just follow her lead in what she wants to do. I also read aloud to her while she plays (we are currently reading The Lion, The Witch and The Wardrobe). I don't follow it exactly but I use Slow and Steady Get Me Ready to give me ideas of age appropriate activities.
Just after 1yo was born, my days were roughly like this:
0700: Get up, feed Baby Girl and express. Eat breakfast while Hubby takes Baby Girl to the toilet.
0830: Put Baby Girl down for nap (If she finished feeding early, Hubby would take her so I could get washed/dressed before he went to work.)
0830-0930: Get washed and dressed. Hang out washing and put on new load. (I think there were a couple more jobs I did at this time but I lost my list.)
0930-1000: Sleep
1000: Get Baby Girl up, take her to toilet and then feed (with many toilet stops).
1130: Put Baby Girl down for nap. Have lunch. Bring in and fold/put away any dry washing and hang out third load. Do washing up. (Again I think there were a couple more jobs I did at this time but I lost my list.)
1300-1400: Sleep
1400: Get Baby Girl up, take her to toilet and then feed (with many toilet stops).
1530: Get ready to take Baby Girl out in pram
1545-1645: Go out for walk with Baby Girl sleeping in pram. (Often I would do grocery shopping at the local shop on my way back.)
1645: Bring in washing and open windows while Baby Girl wakes up
1700-30: Feed Baby Girl
1730-1800: Rest/"Bedtime" jobs (these were the essentials we needed to get done before bedtime ready for the next day such as make sure we had clothes, nappies, cotton wool, drinks/snacks etc. out in the right place) while Hubby baths Baby Girl.
1800-1900: Feed Baby Girl then put her to bed for the night while Hubby makes dinner.
1900: Dinner followed by bedtime jobs.
1930: Bed
2030: Get back up and express
2100: Bed. Hubby would stay up later than me to do the 2230 feed of expressed milk.
Roughly some time between 0100 and 0300: Get up and feed Baby Girl (up approximately one hour).
A couple of weeks earlier before she was born, my typical day looked roughly like this:
0800: Eat breakfast in bed, clean teeth in bed and go back to sleep.
1100: Get up. Watch TV or read a book.
1230: Get dressed with Hubby's help (he came home for lunch almost every day while I was pregnant to look after me). Talk to Hubby while he makes lunch then eat lunch.
1315: Watch the news/other TV.
1430: Do a few admin jobs on the computer.
1530: Watch TV/DVD/read a book.
1630: Sleep
1800: Get up and watch the news.
1900: Eat dinner then watch TV/read while Hubby washes up and does a few other jobs.
2100: Go to bed.
In case you haven't guessed, I was quite ill during my pregnancy but I got much better the very day Baby Girl was born. It was quite an amazing change really as I went from having to be helped to get dressed, wash my hair etc to doing loads of household jobs without even thinking about them.
Friday, 25 April 2008
Baby Girl's Birthday
Thursday, 24 April 2008
Tuesday, 22 April 2008
The Woman in White
In addition to forgetting a lot of the plot, I had forgotten how much I enjoyed this book until I reread it. It is one where the "goodies" live happily ever after and the "baddies" receive their just deserts but it manages to do this in a believable way. I liked the fact that the main characters were good and strove for what was right and true. Those characters who did do wrong are not condoned and those who commit the worst wrongs do not profit from them in the long run. Although the plot is not something which would happen in real life, it does illustrate how the wrongs committed by an individual can have far reaching effects on many other people.
I particularly like Wilkie Collins' writing style - the story is narrated by different characters throughout the book and the characters are well described so that you get a real picture of what they are like. After Far from the Madding Crowd I will probably read The Moonstone which is also by Wilkie Collins.
About the poem posted below
In other news, the wonderwash arrived today. I ended up ordering it from a different company as the original one had run out and was having trouble getting hold of more. My kombucha scoby just arrived too. I got it through Kombucha Exchange Worldwide. I guess I'm going to be pretty busy starting of kombucha brewing and using the wonderwash. Tomorrow the council will be taking away our old washing machine which should make some more space. I also need to make a birthday cake as Baby Girl will be one on Thursday. It is amazing how the time flies.
Monday, 21 April 2008
Meeting with God
Surrounded by people,
yet all alone.
Complete Emptiness.
Living in a void,
with sounds all around,
but no one knows me,
no one hears my voice.
Do I call out again?
Locked away;
Hiding from Nothingness,
Emptiness comes to consume me,
as I throw away the key.
Deeper than I've ever been,
Drowning in the indefinable.
I bleed again.
Seeking respite from what I do not know
Stuck on self-destruct
Spiralling ever downwards
Sinking further;
in an effort to escape hollowness...
...Tears devour me,
But now they are tears of joy.
I live again,
drenched in Jesus' blood,
He bleeds for me.
Out of the Darkness.
Into the Light.
Dancing with joy,
My life is full.
I am renewed,
I revel in is love,
Singing of His grace.
I call out His name.
Everything is new,
and filled with His glory.
How can I pay the debt?
A life was given for mine.
I breath again,
He breathed life into my bones
And I will live forever,
Now I have met with God.
Thursday, 17 April 2008
Why "Sinner Saved"?
The most important thing about me is that I am a sinner and I am saved.
Being a sinner is not unusual - we are all sinners. Before I was a Christian, I didn't think I was a sinner. Admittedly I didn't think I was "good" - I knew I wasn't perfect but I thought that I was "good enough" to go to heaven. After all I wasn't a murder or anything so I had to be good enough didn't I? Wrong.
"For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God"
Once I had become a Christian I knew that I was a sinner. But, along with the knowledge that I was a sinner came the gift of salvation. I am too sinful to earn a place in heaven. I could not even come close. But I am saved by God's grace through faith in Jesus Christ.
"For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God"
Christ lived a perfect life and died on the cross to take the punishment which I deserved for my sin. Thanks to his sacrifice I am saved. Whoever believes in him will be saved.
That whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have eternal life.
Being saved does not stop me from sinning. I am no less a sinner now that I am saved. So my blog title reminds me of the two most important things about me:
- I am a sinner.
- I have been saved.
Wednesday, 16 April 2008
HTML: A bit of JavaScript
<script language="JavaScript">
<!--
var ar = new Array(
"<b>Sunday</b><br>Worship God<br>Rest<br>",
"<b>Monday</b><br>make bread<br>make buttermilk<br>",
"<b>Tuesday</b><br>Bake bread<br>make spicy fruit loaf<br>",
"<b>Wednesday</b><br>bake spicy fruit loaf<br>plan menu for next week<br>make buttermilk<br>start yoghurt<br>",
"<b>Thursday</b><br>put yoghurt in fridge<br>start cream cheese<br>",
"<b>Friday</b><br>grind wheat<br><br>re-strain whey<br>transfer cream cheese from strainer<br>",
"<b>Saturday</b><br>Family Activity<br>"
);
var now = new Date();
var num = now.getDay();
num %= ar.length;
document.write(ar[num]);
// -->
</script>
Each day it displays what I have entered between the quotation
marks for that particular day so for example for Wednesday I have entered:
<b>Wednesday</b><br>bake spicy fruit
loaf<br>plan menu for next week<br>make buttermilk<br>start
yoghurt<br>
Which comes out as:
Wednesday
bake spicy fruit loaf
plan menu for next week
make buttermilk
start yoghurt
You could enter whatever you liked for each day such as writing, pictures or links as long as you remember to use HTML code to format what you put in.
Tuesday, 15 April 2008
Alive and Kicking
Alive and Kicking have information on their website on how to go about lobbying your MP about this bill. They also have a database which tells you how they have voted on this kind of issue in the past and if it is known which way they would vote on various issues. I was saddened and surprised to find that David Cameron who has a disabled child himself is in favour of keeping the allowance for abortion to be performed right up to birth if the child has a "serious" disability.
I urge any readers who live in the UK to get in touch with their MP about this bill even if their MP is pro-life as the pro-abortionists will be lobbying them too. You can also find information on the Christian Institute website.
Unfortunately also although this is a matter of conscience, GordonBrown is imposing the party whip on the Labour Party for this vote meaning that as things stand, those Labour MPs who cannot in conscience support the bill have the choice of either voting against it and being kicked out of the party or abstaining. It is important therefore also to lobby Gordon Brown to allow a free vote on this matter.
I've made this a sticky so new posts will appear below this one for the next week.
Friday, 11 April 2008
Caught up
My mum found another phone number for the insurance company for us and I phoned and got through so the car is going to be fixed in a couple of weeks. It turns out we have no excess (I chose zero voluntary excess and didn't realise there was no compulsory excess) so whatever happens we don't have to pay anything for the repairs. Because the landlord hadn't maintained the roof even though we told them, the insurance company is going to claim from them which should mean we won't lose our no claims bonus. If they aren't successful, we will lose two years of our no claims bonus. Fortunately, I always budget our car insurance for more than it cost the previous year just in case so it won't cause budget problems if that happens. (I have a very complicated spreadsheet to budget over a year because Hubby works as a gardener so our income is seasonal.)
Hope you all have a good weekend, I've got all my days muddled up at the moment because my mum and brothers visited yesterday afternoon but normally they visit on Saturdays.
Wednesday, 9 April 2008
Wet washing etc.
I washed the next load (Hubby's work clothes prewashed in the previous old washing water and some towels and sheets) using the water from the previous rinse and left them soaking overnight. I rinsed them this morning and put the next lot to wash in the rinse water. I didn't have hubby to do the wringing so I did it myself which wasn't as effective and lugged it all outside to hang on the washing line. It's still quite cold out but because they were still relatively wet I figured it was worth hanging them out as it would get rid of the worst moisture.
A little bit later while I was feeding Baby Girl, I noticed it had started to rain. I figured it was probably just a shower because Hubby hadn't mentioned any rain (he's a gardener and follows the forecasts very closely) so combined with the fact I was in the middle of feeding Baby Girl, I decided they probably wouldn't get that wet so I left the stuff out.
Big mistake.
It absolutely poured and at one point it was even hail stoning. The rain has stopped now but last time I checked the washing was dripping! Hubby has kindly said he will wring it out for me if it's still that bad when he gets home but hopefully it will dry up a bit before then.
Aside from the drying issue (which wouldn't be so bad if we didn't have a bit of a build up of washing), hand washing has been a lot easier and more manageable than I expected. I think the main reason it is easier than I expected is that when I was a student I hand washed in the baisin in my college room whereas I am currently using a bath to handwash which makes it so much easier as you can do more at once without splashing water everywhere. We've gone back to using flannels rather than baby wipes (which don't seem to work as well as flannels anyway) and by the weekend I expect we'll be back to using the washable nappies.
Today we got our fruit, veg, milk and eggs delivery so I have set some yoghurt and some buttermilk away and later on I will write out a menu plan for the next week. I need to change the to do list in my side bar as I've changed the days that I do some jobs. I'll also try to get that next HTML post up some time in the next week. I'm making progress with my sourdough hot cross bun recipe so hopefully I'll be able to post it in a couple of weeks time.
Monday, 7 April 2008
Making progress
After some discussion with Hubby, on Saturday I ordered a wonderwash handpowered washing machine. We figured that if it works out, it saves us buying a regular washing machine and if it doesn't, then at least it saves us spending and the laundrette while we sort out a regular one and it would be back up for those times when the washer breaks or there's a power cut or something.
The main potential issue we can see (aside from the time spent which may not be any different to normal and whether it washes well enough which we'll see when we use it) is that the washing will be fairly wet which is an issue when we are drying clothes indoors. (There is already a slight damp problem we are waiting on the landlord to deal with and we don't want to make it worse.) If that does turn out to be a problem but it is fine in other respects, we might consider getting a spin dryer. The two together would cost less than a regular washing machine, would get the clothes drier because a spin dryer spins about twice as fast as a washer and would use much less electricity. The wonderwash is due to arrive sometime from Wednesday to Friday so in the meantime I am doing some handwashing.
Oil stains
I searched on the internet and found various different techniques for removing oil stains. Most were for stuff like cooking oil and worked on the assumption that the clothes were dry and that you had a working washing machine. In the end I decided to try some washing up liquid as it sounded like the most likely one to work. I put washing up liquid on every bit of oil on the nappies and flannels and rubbed it in with a toothbrush. I then left them for a couple of hours before handwashing them. This got almost all of them clean :D and the remainder are now soaking in some soapy water ready for a second go. I really was amazed at how well it worked so would definitely recommend it as a way of getting rid of any kind of oil stain.
Other stuff
I finished reading The Woman in White and have started on Far from the Madding Crowd. I'll post another time on my thoughts on these as I haven't got time for any more at the moment.
Friday, 4 April 2008
Living without a washing machine
We're hoping to be able to get hold of an old washing machine on freecycle but if not, I guess we'll have to buy one. In the meantime I'm going to be handwashing our clothes although I am cheating a little bit as I've bought some disposable nappies and we are also using disposable baby wipes at the moment. Assuming I can keep up with the washing, we'll go back to the washable nappies and flannels but I'd rather get ahead first rather than try to do it all from the beginning and end up miles behind. When I was a student I did used to handwash my clothes most of the time because I didn't like to pay £1 to use the washing machine but that was fairly easy as I didn't have a baby or a husband who works as a gardener.
In some ways I am quite enjoying the idea of the challenge. Well I'd better start looking for ways to get rid of oil stains...
Saturday, 29 March 2008
Cookery Illustrated and Household Management
I've still got a cold but I think it's slightly improving and I never got through to the car insurance so I think I'll be writing them another letter.
Hope you all have a blessed Sabbath.
Thursday, 27 March 2008
On hold with a cold
I mentioned last month that a slate fell off the roof and scraped/dented the back of our car. Well I tried a few times to ring our insurance company but ended up giving up each time after being on hold for ages. Today Hubby is working at home so I've been able to pass the phone to him when I need to. So far I've been on hold for 7 1/2 hours. Fortunately I have free minutes on my phone otherwise it would cost a fortune. I am wondering if the reason I got such a good deal was because you can't actually get through on the phone to make a claim!
Tuesday, 25 March 2008
Blog Purpose
This blog is a reflection of my life. The most important thing in my life is being a Christian and I hope both to be a witness to unbelievers and be an encouragement to fellow believers. I am also a wife, mother and homemaker trying to live up to the standards set in Titus 2 and Proverbs 31. (Of course I am nowhere near the high standards set in the Bible but I must continue to work towards them.) I hope that by sharing with others about what I am doing, I can be an encouragement to them.
To my suprise I have also found blogging to be helpful to myself. Firstly, I am encouraged and helped by those who read and comment on my blog. Secondly, writing about these things for an audience helps me to think things through in a more clear and organised way. Thirdly, I find that writing about what I have done for other people to read helps me to be more organised and get more done. I never expected these benefits but I guess God had planned it this way.)
So I guess the purpose of this blog is to share the outworking of my faith in my life for the mutual benefit and encouragement of myself and my readers.
Wednesday, 19 March 2008
Baking etc.
I also managed to get a bit of tidying done in the kitchen today. Our council has just started doing kerbside recycling of plastic and cardboard so I decided it was time to get rid of some of the boxes and cartons I've been keeping "just in case" they are useful. I manages to reduce the stuff from two boxes to one box (it includes cling film, tin foil, sandwich bags etc. too) which freed up a box to store oats in so now my wheat and flour has a box all to itself. This is good as it means it's easy to tell whether we've run out.
I've ordered a fermenting bin from here so hopefully soon I can brew kombucha. I intend to brew by the continuous fermentation method as this is more beneficial, produces more consistent results, and is easier than the batch method.
I've got various posts in the pipe line but probably won't have a lot of time to write them in the next few days as we'll be seeing different parts of the family over the bank holiday weekend so won't be posting again before Tuesday.
Tuesday, 18 March 2008
Playing Catch Up
I didn't make bread yesterday with all the disruption so I'm doing it today but am only doing two loaves as we don't seem to be geting through it as quickly at the moment.
I also want to make some hot cross buns tomorrow. They are at the experimental stage as I want to make them using sourdough but all the recipes for hot cross buns use yeasted bread. I am making hot cross buns to give to hubby's family for Easter because they always give Easter Eggs but (aside from the complete rip-off and waste of packaging with Easter Eggs) we don't want to give chocolate. Well actually it's me who objects to the chocolate and hubby said that he was fine with us giving something else as long as it had some kind of connection with Easter and wasn't just something completely random.
The kumquat and orange marmalade I made a few weeks ago came out okay but Hubby said he wasn't that keen on it and he is the one who eats the marmalade so I probably won't try it again. He's agreed to us trying to brew some kombucha so hopefully I'll be starting that soon.
On the reading front, I'm still reading The Woman in White. I think it's probably one we'll keep but I want to read the whole thing as I've forgotten quite a lot of it.
Friday, 14 March 2008
Basic HTML Part Two
In my last post about HTML I covered paragraphs/line breaks and bold and italic writing. This post covers links, pictures and colours.
Links
In the above paragraph, I made the words “last post” a link to my previous HTML post. The way to do this is to put link tags around the words “last post”. The code for link tags is “a” and we put pointy brackets around the tags and use a start and end tag just like before. However, the start tag contains some extra information to show where the link is to:
In my <a href=”http://sinnersavedbygod.blogspot.com/2008/02/basic-html-part-one.html”>last post</a> about HTML…
This would produce the result shown in my first paragraph.
Colour
Colour can be used for various things such as text and background. The colour can be defined ;ocally (in a similar way to the way bold and italic are done) or it can be predefined near the beginning of the page (for example, heading, link and “visited” link colours can be defined so that they all come out the same colour).
For now I will just discuss how to define colour locally. To do this, we use “font” tags. These would be <font> and </font>. Like with the links, we put extra information in the opening tag. This information is called an “attribute”. (We can also define the size and font of the writing but I will cover this another time.)
Here is how we can do it:
I like <font color=”red”>red</font> writing.
This would come out like this:
I like red writing.
Note the attribute “color” uses the American spelling.
Using a colour name we can choose a limited range of colours (red, yellow, green, blue, black etc.) but using a six-digit hexadecimal code number we have a choice of over 16 million colours. The code follows the format #rrggbb i.e. the first two digits define the amount of red used, the second two the amount of green used and the third pair the amount of blue used. “00” is the smallest amount and “FF” the largest. To explain a bit better, here are some examples:
#FF0000 = red
#00FF00 = green
#0000FF = blue
#000000 = black
#FFFFFF = white
Because it is designed for computer monitors which emit light, it is designed for mixing light (red, green and blue are the primary colours for light).
If I wanted to do the earlier sentence using the colour code I would write:
I like <font color=”#FF0000”>red</font> writing.
Of course it would be pretty difficult to work out the code for every colour you might want but definitions can easily be found:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Web_colors
http://www.logoorange.com/color/color-codes-chart.php
I found these fairly easily by searching for the keywords HTML, color and code in a search engine.
I will return to this on a later date.
Pictures/Images
The code for a picture or image is <img src=imageURL>. Where I have written "imageURL” you would enter the URL of the image. For example:
<img
src=”http://photos-d.ak.facebook.com/photos-ak-sctm/v162/218/49/865750507/n865750507_1956555_4111.jpg”>
Results in this:
If I remember correctly (I’m revising this from notes I made
five years ago) the image tag is the only one where an end tag is not required.
Next time I will cover a little bit of JavaScript which may
be helpful before returning to HTML.
Thursday, 6 March 2008
Long time no blog
Things seem to have been pretty busy round here lately. One thing which is currently taking up time is sitting on hold to our car insurance company. A slate fell off our roof and hit the back of our car in the recent bad winds. We had told the landlord (via the estate agent) that there were loose tiles a couple of years ago but they are very slow at dealing with things (I don't know whether it's the landlord or the estate agent that makes everything take so long) so it hasn't been dealt with. The longest I have waited on the line was 2 1/2 hours and I can now tell you that their music loop lasts for 35 minutes before repeating itself. Well, as the days are going on and I still haven't been able to get through I'm going to write to them instead. It is a bit frustrating as we had not even had the car back from the garage a week after our friends' gate fell on it but I am thankful that I happened to look out of the window just when the slate fell down otherwise we might not have realised for a while. I'm even more thankful that we were not underneath when the slate fell off and have decided that it is sensible not to take Baby Girl for a walk in the back yard if it is windy.
A more exciting development since I last blogged is that Baby Girl has started properly eating food. She had been eating small pieces for a few weeks mainly I think by accident if they just happened to go out of the back of her mouth rather than the front but this last week she has been actively eating quite a bit. Yesterday at tea time she ate four raisins and 1 1/4 grapes. :o)
Well I'd better get that insurance letter written...
Monday, 25 February 2008
Titus 2
"The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed."Titus 2v3-5
My husband and I are currently considering what exactly the outworking of these verses is. In particular, what is meant by "keepers at home"? The Greek word is οἰκουρούς. I know that οἰκος means home/house and my Greek-English interlinear new testament translates the word literally as "house workers". I have had a brief search on the internet but presumably it is not a word used in modern Greek as everything I found relating to this word was about Titus 2.
Friday, 22 February 2008
Marmalade
I received the booking form for Baby Girl's measles and mumps vaccinations so have got it filled in and ready to send off after Baby Girl's nap. I'm more or less caught up on all the thing I got behind on while I was having Baby Girl in the sling for naps which is nice. I just need to get our online grocery shopping done and then I can do some sewing.
Hope you all have a good weekend. :o)
Thursday, 21 February 2008
Kumquats and chewing gum
Hubby had chewing gum on the sleeve of a shirt and the freezer didn't work so I searched the web for tips and found this one actually worked:
- put washing up liquid on the chewing gum
- rub in some salt
- now rub the chewing gum off with a piece of fabric
I'm off to finish making fisherman's pie for dinner. :o)
Wednesday, 20 February 2008
At last...
On the vaccinations front, I e-mailed Health Choice UK and they can do Measles and Mumps vaccines which are produced without using cell-lines from aborted babies but not Rubella. I've asked for a booking form for the Measles and Mumps and we'll just have to carry on looking for somewhere that can do the Rubella.
I've been making my three monthly shopping list this week so today I was looking at the herbs. We don't really use tarragon and coriander very much so we decided not to get them anymore once they run out. We buy refills from a market stall so some of the herbs were in jars with incorrect labels which was very confusing so I made some new labels for all the herbs we will carry on buying:
Our fortnightly fruit box arrived just after lunch (we get a veg and a fruit box delivered alternate weeks) but it had the list for the veg box in instead of the fruit box. We got oranges, apples, lemons, bananas and grapes which I could identify but what are these?
They look a bit like miniature oranges and are about double the size of large grapes. If anyone knows what they are do let me know.
Monday, 18 February 2008
Our Living Room
When they had finished the whole of downstairs was very dusty:
Fortunately they finished a day early and in two days I was able to transform the living room from this:

To this:
Since taking the photos, I've put all our pictures and photos back up and made a few more slight rearrangements. I also took the opportunity to create a home for my Household Organistion Folder:
Friday, 15 February 2008
My testimony
I grew up "with" the church. I went to Sunday School from a young age and I have a recollection in my early childhood of my parents going to church. I can remember commenting that there weren't many cars parked in the town centre and my parents telling me it was because it was Sunday. My parents stopped going to church because they found my baby brother to be too disruptive in church and they never went back. However they still sent me and my brothers to Sunday School. Following on from Sunday School was the church youth group.
It is hard for me to comment on how good the teaching was in my home church for two reasons. Firstly, before I was saved I was spiritually blind and probably did not see the truth even when it was staring me in the face and secondly not long after I became a Christian the minister changed and the church went rapidly downhill. What I can say is that it was made up of both genuine Christians and people who weren't believers but thought Christianity was a "good thing" or who just went to church because they always had. Unfortunately the teaching whilst probably not "bad" was certainly not clear and lacked content. Sermons were more like "Thought for the Day" than real preaching and teaching. Also nobody ever told me about things like personal prayer and Bible Study. Looking back I can see that many of these people were true Christians and did spend time praying and studying the Bible but they were not well taught and they did not talk about it as they should have.
Most people in our church would get confirmed (the Anglican equivalent of church membership) when they were about thirteen at which point they would start taking communion. I guess I must have had some awareness of the meaning of this as I did not feel that I was ready for confirmation when I was thirteen and so I wasn't confirmed like most others in the church youth group. When I was seventeen we had a service to celebrate that our minister had been ordained for twenty-five years. I remember watching the huge number of people (some of whom I recognised and knew weren't regular churchgoers) who went up for communion and thinking, "How come all those people have been confirmed and yet they are not at church every week?" I made a promise to myself at that point that I would not get confirmed until I was committed enough to go to church every week. (The church youth group was on Sunday evenings and I only went to church for family services (first Sunday of the month) or other particular times such as Carol Service etc.) I somehow felt that it was wrong to make that commitment if I wasn't going to keep it.
So I grew up "with" the church but I wasn't clearly taught and I didn't truly know what Christianity was about. I believed in God and I knew that the Bible was true. I did once "decide" that God did not exist but this only lasted for an hour because I realised that I could not explain Jesus and his death if God did not exist. I used to read the Bible from time to time - sometimes reading through a book and sometimes just picking bits out. I was very unhappy both at home and at school in my early/mid teens and I would often look up the references in the front of my Gideon’s Bible. I can remember particularly disliking the Psalms because they would start off how I felt but then they would go all cheerful. At one point I even started reading the Bible from the beginning in order to work out how old the world was and got as far as Isaiah. I thought I was a Christian but really although I believed in the God of the Bible and believed the Bible to be true I did not know or understand what the Bible said so I was not truly a Christian.
When I went to university aged eighteen, because I considered myself to be a Christian I went along to the college Christian Union. This is how I first came to be a Christian. I had taken by Bible with me to university and I started praying every night when I went to bed. I did not know what to say so I used the words of the Lord's Prayer. The CU gave out details of churches and I chose to go to an evangelical Anglican church. I hadn't really thought about churches before I went and I chose the church because it was an Anglican church and I had already been to it because there was a University-wide CU meeting held there on Saturdays.
At the first Saturday meeting I picked up few leaflets. One was a small booklet titled "What is a Christian?" I remember reading in this book that we were all sinners and deserved to go to hell. It said that we needed to repent of our sins and that God could forgive us and accept Jesus' payment for our sins so that we could go to heaven. I can remember thinking, "That's not right, I'm not that bad." I decided that the booklet was incorrect about what made a Christian and still thought that I was one.
Through the preaching at church (they taught through books of the Bible which was absolutely amazing to me and really opened up God's word), the CU Bible Studies and the interaction with Christians in the CU I rapidly learned about a Christianity I had never known. This was a living faith.
I was amazed to discover that you could pray not just by yourself or as part of a church service but in small groups. It was not necessary to have a "set" prayer or to write out a prayer beforehand but you could "just pray". Not only that but people actually believed in prayer. Instead of being something you just "did" it was something real and powerful. Also you didn't have to just pray about general things (such as people in general, wars etc) but you could pray about specific things and all aspects of your life. You could turn to God about everything.
I found that people read their Bibles on a daily basis as a matter of course to learn about God. I began to do this too and in conjunction with the Bible Studies and the preaching at church I began to learn more about God and his relationship with us.
I had come from a culture where I was considered a bit weird because I said I was a Christian to one where there were many true Christians from whom I learnt a great deal.
When I went home that Christmas I went to church every Sunday morning.
Sometime during the next term I happened across the booklet I had read when I first arrived. I found that unlike the previous time I read it I actually agreed with what it said and could genuinely pray the prayer of repentance contained in it. It was only at that point that I realised that I hadn't been a Christian when I started University. I couldn't say exactly when it had happened but I knew that I was a Christian then and that I hadn't been four months earlier.
Since then I have been completely changed. I had many issues which I struggled with when I first left for university. God has helped me beyond my own strength to resolve almost all of these. "I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me." Philippians 4:13 Those which remain are circumstances which I cannot control and whilst I still pray about them, these no longer trouble me as they did because my hope is now in God. "For thou art my hope, O Lord GOD" Psalm 71:5a
"Unto thee, O LORD, do I lift up my soul.
O my God, I trust in thee: let me not be ashamed, let not mine enemies triumph over me.
Yea, let none that wait on thee be ashamed: let them be ashamed which transgress without cause.
Shew me thy ways, O LORD; teach me thy paths.
Lead me in thy truth, and teach me: for thou art the God of my salvation; on thee do I wait all the day.
Remember, O LORD, thy tender mercies and thy lovingkindnesses; for they have been ever of old.
Remember not the sins of my youth, nor my transgressions: according to thy mercy remember thou me for thy goodness' sake, O LORD.
Good and upright is the LORD: therefore will he teach sinners in the way.
The meek will he guide in judgment: and the meek will he teach his way.
All the paths of the LORD are mercy and truth unto such as keep his covenant and his testimonies.
For thy name's sake, O LORD, pardon mine iniquity; for it is great.
What man is he that feareth the LORD? him shall he teach in the way that he shall choose.
His soul shall dwell at ease; and his seed shall inherit the earth.
The secret of the LORD is with them that fear him; and he will shew them his covenant.
Mine eyes are ever toward the LORD; for he shall pluck my feet out of the net.
Turn thee unto me, and have mercy upon me; for I am desolate and afflicted.
The troubles of my heart are enlarged: O bring thou me out of my distresses.
Look upon mine affliction and my pain; and forgive all my sins.
Consider mine enemies; for they are many; and they hate me with cruel hatred.
O keep my soul, and deliver me: let me not be ashamed; for I put my trust in thee.
Let integrity and uprightness preserve me; for I wait on thee.
Thursday, 14 February 2008
Gravy
Ingredients
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The quantities given are roughly what I use and is probably enough for about ten people but you can adjust them according to how many people you are feeding, what your personal preferences are, the size of the vegetables etc.
+ 1 medium onion
+ black pepper
+ 2tbsp cooking oil
+ 4tbsp flour
+ assorted vegetables (use what you are having for dinner anyway: an assortment roughly equivalent in size to the onion)
+ boiling water (full kettle)
+ a herb suitable for the chosen meat (I often use sage)
Utensils
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+ Medium pan
+ chopping board
+ sharp knife
+ wooden spoon
+ kettle
+ 3 in 1 blender (traditional and smoothie/soup making attachments)*
+ gravy boat if desired for serving
Instructions
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1. Reserve some of the vegetables prepared for cooking roughly equivalent to a medium onion in size (see ingredients) and put the kettle on to boil.
2. Chop onion roughly.
3. Put onion and other vegetables in blender and blend until most of the vegetables are of a grated/shredded vegetable consistency.
4. Heat oil on hob.
5. Carefully add vegetable mixture from blender and add black pepper. Stir until browned. (N.B. onion fumes can be quite strong.)
6. Take off heat, add flour and stir to form "roux". (This should mean that everything is evenly coated with an oil/flour mix.
7. Add about a pint of water (from kettle) and stir in until mixture is reasonably smooth.
8. Return to heat and bring to boil.
9. Remove from heat and use smoothie/soup attachment from blender to remove all remaining vegetable/roux lumps.
10. Ad herbs and return to heat.
11. Add water (from kettle) and stir in until desired consistency is gained.
12. Leave to simmer on low heat until the rest of the meal is ready.
13. If cooking a roast dinner, add juices from the joint when it is removed from the oven. (This step can be ignored if desired.)
14. When everything else is ready either pour over plates of food or put in gravy boat to serve.
Notes
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i) If you don't have a blender, you can grate and finely chop the vegetables instead of putting them through the blender.
ii) This can be a sneaky way of getting vegetables into children who won't eat them.
iii) Left over gravy can be used as for soup, gravy or sauce.
Wednesday, 13 February 2008
Tuesday, 12 February 2008
The Mill on the Floss
- Maggie (who is "almost" engaged to Philip) and Stephen (who is "almost" engaged to Lucy - Maggie's cousin and close friend) are mutually attracted to one another. They allow themselves to fall into temptation and Stephen persuades Maggie to elope. Maggie's conscience prevents her going through with it but Philip and Lucy have still been hurt in the process.
- Maggie (the main character) does not do something which is inherently morally wrong (although she was foolish and unwise and her actions and should have avoided temptation).
- Maggie clearly has a conscience about her actions and shows remorse.
- The book illustrates the danger of allowing oneself to fall into temptation. As Heather Gemmen says in her book Startling Beauty we are told to FLEE temptation - not just resist it.
I can't say that the overall plot is that amazing as a story but there doesn't seem to be anything objectionable in it so we will most likely keep it but I don't think we would have it at the top of the reading list.
The next book I will be looking at is The Woman in White by Wilkie Collins.
Monday, 11 February 2008
When to do Bible Studies
After Baby Girl was born, we restarted doing Family Bible Studies initially rather ad hoc before settling on mornings. Gradually mornings before hubby went to work got busier and we ended up only doing it at weekends.
Last November, we decided we needed a rethink as it clearly wasn't working and also we wanted to start using Robert M M'Cheynes plan in January which requires two Family Bible Studies per day. We rearranged mornings so that we could fit one in after breakfast before hubby goes to work and we decided to do the other one during Baby Girl's bedtime feed as that is the only time after hubby gets home before she goes to bed apart from bathtime and we didn't think bathtime would be an appropriate time. In the mornings we usually just do a Bible reading and in the evenings we usually discuss the passage a bit more and also pray and sing a Psalm.
The current system seems to be working so far but we have learnt that if it doesn't we should work out a time when we will do it rather than having a time where we don't.
It would be nice to know what others do so feel free to comment with how you do yours.
Friday, 8 February 2008
Have a good weekend
Thursday, 7 February 2008
Bible Study
Wednesday, 6 February 2008
Books
And he saith unto them, Are ye so without understanding also? Do ye not perceive, that whatsoever thing from without entereth into the man, it cannot defile him; Because it entereth not into his heart, but into the belly, and goeth out into the draught, purging all meats? And he said, That which cometh out of the man, that defileth the man. For from within, out of the heart of men, proceed evil thoughts, adulteries, fornications, murders, Thefts, covetousness, wickedness, deceit, lasciviousness, an evil eye, blasphemy, pride, foolishness: All these evil things come from within, and defile the man.
Mark 7:18-23
So; my husband and I have agreed that we will sort through all our books and decide which ones are appropriate to keep and which are not. I will be doing most of the reading/sorting but once I have studied each book I will discuss the book with him so that he can make the final decision. We decided to start with the fiction books as they are more like to contain immorality whereas non-fiction would tend to present non-Christian world views such as evolutionism which we would consider to be incorrect rather than immoral.
I decided to start with our "classic" books as I think they are the ones most likely to be questionable. The website I linked to above used the following criteria to judge books: "Does the book have literary value? Does the book re-emphasize a Biblical worldview or the Judeo-Christian heritage in some way? Does the book teach, through whatever means, what is moral or just or true? Does the book encourage to love and good works? Does the book exemplify warmth, tenderness, courage, humor, and other values and characteristics that we desire our children to be exposed to? Does the book nourish the intellect and fire the imagination? Does the book cross age barriers to be enjoyed by all?" I am trying to use similar criteria and am thinking about whether I would be happy for Baby Girl to read a given book when she is older and what my reasons are for objecting or not. It is quite hard as obviously it is not reasonable to eliminate a book on the basis of a character's wrongdoing so I am having to consider what sort of transgression it is and how it is presented both in terms of narrative and moral stance. By this I mean: Does the author give unecessary/gratuitous detail about things which should/need not be described in so much detail? Is the overall impression given by the book that any sins committed were okay?
I decided straight away to eliminate Tess of the D'Urbervilles and to keep Little Women and Good Wives. I'm now studying The Mill on the Floss to decide whether we shoudl keep it or not. I'll hopefully put a list of the books I'm sorting through on my sidebar soon and I will keep blogging about my progress.
Was she copying me?
I don't know whether she was copying me or not but it made me smile :o)
Tuesday, 5 February 2008
Our EC journey
I read this and proceeded to read all the links and any other information I could find. The idea of practising elimination communication instantly appealed to me for a number of reasons. One reason was that it saves nappies and therefore money and waste. It seemed like such a natural way to deal with babies’ elimination needs. Once I had read about it, it almost seemed silly that I had never thought of it myself (and indeed some people have just thought of it themselves). It allows the child to be clean and dry the majority (if not all of) the time which is decidedly more pleasant and eliminates the common problem of nappy rash.
Another advantage is that it means starting the way you intend to go on with toilet training being a gradual process whereby the child gradually takes over responsibility as he is able. This is in contrast with the conventional method which involves starting with the child being expected to soil themselves and carry their waste next to their skin and then one day turning round and retraining them to do things another way. Of course the conventional method of nappies followed by toilet training works in the long run (after all if it didn’t, we’d all be walking round wearing nappies) but it is a long drawn out process often not enjoyed by either parent or child. It seemed to make sense that it is easier not to nappy train your child if you then want them to become “un-nappy trained” after two or three years.
So, I knew what elimination communication was, I thought it sounded like a good idea so what next? After discussing it with my husband, we decided to buy a couple of books about it in order to read up in slightly more detail than on the internet. Having read these, we were happy that we would give it a go with our first child whom at that time we were expecting. Although it is possible to do elimination communication without using any nappies at all, we decided to go for a more cautious approach whereby we would offer our baby the toilet but keep her in nappies to catch any “misses”. A miss is what would be called an “accident” in conventional toilet training. The term miss is a more positive term as it says to the child, “I missed you.” rather than, “You had an accident.”
The first days after our baby was born were such a whirlwind we really didn’t have time to think about elimination communication but when she was four days old we began. We started by holding her over a pot when we changed her nappy. Sometimes she did something, sometimes she didn’t. We started to look for signs of discomfort and change her and offer the pot if she seemed unhappy and the cause didn’t appear to be hunger or tiredness. We found that a particular time when she would need the toilet was when she stopped feeding part way through a feed. We started changing her nappy and offering her the pot at these times and found it meant she would then continue to feed again afterwards. I guess in a way it is similar to babies stopping feeding in order to burp.
At first we were just using an old plastic food container but it seemed silly tipping the contents down the toilet and rinsing the container when we could just hold her over the toilet so we started doing this. This also had the benefit of being an easier position to maintain as the baby could rest on our legs instead of being suspended in the air using our arms whilst kneeling on the floor and trying to aim into a little container.
Over time, we changed and offered the toilet more frequently. At first we found the nappy was always wet or dirty and most times she would also do something in the pot but gradually, the amount in the nappies decreased and the amount in the toilet increased. Using the toilet meant we caught more as it was easier to sit and wait during the slow newborn poo than it was holding her over a pot.
As our daughter got heavier, lifting her up to the toilet became a bit of a chore so we decided to buy a little potty. We chose a clear one as this means you can check whether they’ve done anything without having to lift them off. Personally, I preferred holding her on the toilet as it saved the work of cleaning out the potty so I used the toilet and my husband used the potty. At first she didn’t show any preference for either but then she began to show a preference for the potty for wees and the toilet for poos. I don’t know whether this was just caused by a difference in physical position or whether it was purely a preference. A little later she seemed to stop weeing in the potty but started weeing in the toilet much more easily. I don’t know why this change happened but as long as she is happy going somewhere other than a nappy, we are happy. She switched back o the potty again and since then we have bought a little toilet seat so we can now sit her on the toilet herself. We wondered what she would make of the toilet seat but she seems quite happy with it.
From when we started for about the first four months the number of misses we had decreased steadily until we were averaging about 2 ½ misses a day. This levelled out during the fifth month but then suddenly more than doubled almost overnight at just over five months. This is commonly known as a “potty pause” where misses increase relative to before. Sometimes they can last just a couple of days or a week or they can last months. Some people find them related to developmental stages (e.g. just before sitting, crawling, walking, cutting teeth etc.) but others find no obvious cause. In our case, the pause lasted almost three months and did not seem to be obviously connected to anything. In the past week, we have seen a massive and sudden change from around seven misses a day to two. This seems to have coincided with a decrease in the total number of wees done so presumably she has developed greater bladder capacity and control than she had before. (Our potty pause was wees only whereas for some people it is everything.)
So where do we go from here? Well hopefully we are on the home straight now towards toilet independence but even if we have more potty pauses on the way, we know our daughter has received great benefit from using elimination communication. Through it, we have been able to respond to her need/desire to be clean. She has never had nappy rash and she is happy to use the toilet just like we do. We started off using terry squares for nappies but as she only ever did one wee in them; we switched to muslin squares so our nappy laundry is almost non-existent despite using washable nappies (we just stick them in with the regular laundry). Instead of spending time and money buying nappies and wipes or having to clean her up instead this time is spent with our daughter when we take her to the toilet and this time is pleasant and enjoyable. If God chooses to bless us with more children I would definitely do it again.
Please do comment if you have any questions.
Monday, 4 February 2008
Basic HTML Part One
What is HTML? One Christmas one of my brothers was writing a thank you letter to an elderly relative. In it he wrote that he had got a book about HTML for Christmas. My mum pointed out that they would have no idea what that meant so he proceeded to add in brackets “hyper text mark up language”.
Unfortunately this didn’t make things any clearer. This is how I describe HTML to people: HTML works a bit like a word processor. In a word processor you enter your text and then you tell it how the text should be formatted (tables, bold, font, text colour text size, left or centre justified etc.). This is exactly what HTML does except that instead of clicking on buttons, you have to enter little bits of “code” or “tags” to tell the web browser how to arrange the text.
A full page of HTML consists of a “head” and a “body”. The head contains various information such as what version of HTML is being used, labels for search engines (called “meta” tags), the title of the page (if you’re using Windows Explorer, this shows on the title bar of Explorer and on the toolbar) and various other bits and pieces. If you are writing bits of HTML for a blogger blog, you don’t need to worry about the head.
The body is where you have your main text of your website and various tags can be used to arrange and format it.
An important thing to tell the browser is when to start on a new line. Even if you have pressed “Enter” between your paragraphs, they will be displayed in one big lump unless you enter the right code. The two easiest ways to do this are either using paragraph tags or line break tags.
The paragraph tags go around the paragraph like this:
<p>This is a sample paragraph.</p><p>This is the second sample paragraph.</p>
These should then display like this:
This is a sample paragraph.
This is the second sample paragraph.
Note you need to have a start tag and an end tag (with the /
before the p).
The line break tag is unusual in that you don’t have start and end tags. To achieve the same paragraphing effect, I could have entered the following:
<br>This is a sample paragraph.<br>br>This is the second sample paragraph.
Once you have your text arranged, you may want to use bold or italics. These are fairly straight forward to do:
I want to use <b>bold</b> and <i>italics</i>.
This should come out as:
I want to use bold and italics.
In my next HTML post I will try to cover links, pictures and colours.
Making progress
Poor Baby Girl is still troubled by her cold. She couldn't sleep after lunch so I've currently got her sleeping in the sling. Although people do claim you can do housework whilst carrying a baby in a sling, I find it too difficult so I have taken the opportunity to catch up on the computer. I've even done a first post on HTML which I'll put up straight after this one.
Well I'd better get moving as it's time for Baby Girl's next feed and she needs waking up.
Friday, 1 February 2008
I'm still here...
After that week of being completely knocked out with colds, last week we went on a mini holiday to Swaledale. We had a lovely break although not quite as restful as we'd expected as Baby Girl took a bit of time getting used to her travel cot. We had planned on trying it out at home the previous week but with her getting a cold and not sleeping anyway we didn't think it was worth it. Swaledale is beautiful and we got some nice pictures of some waterfalls we visited which I'll post another time.
This week we have had builders in. Finally our landlord decided to get the damp fixed so we have been living upstairs this week. They were supposed to do one full day and then three half days but they hit on some unexpected things in the first day (lots of rubble in the wall cavity apparently) so they ended up doing three full days which was better for us as it meant they finished a day sooner - I'm so glad to have my kitchen back! :)
On Monday we also had a routine development check for Baby Girl and we went to see our doctor about vaccinations. The development check was fine - the Health Visitor mainly just asked questions about what she's able to do now (such as walking around furniture, picking up and dropping objects etc.) and weighed and measured her. The Doctor had no idea about vaccinations and just said that there were no alternatives in his little book of what was available for prescribing. He also said that it was safe (which we told him was not our issue) and suggested that even if we wouldn't have it for ourselves maybe we should give it to her which I thought was a bit strange as surely most parents are more bothered about their children than they are about themselves when it comes to things like this? Anyway, the upshot is we'll have to go privately but thanks to the MMR scare there are plenty of private clinics and it seems fairly easy to get Measles and Mumps jabs that are okay from them but it might be difficult to get hold of the Rubella vaccine. I'll post updates on how we get on with vaccinations.
So, now my cold has almost gone but not quite (I don't feel ill - I'm just constantly blowing my nose) and Baby Girl has gone and got another one. The builders left quite a mess of dust everywhere and we had to move all our stuff so today I have been mostly cleaning and rearranging furniture. I feel like I've got quite a lot done today so hopefully tomorrow I'll be able to get everything more or less back to normal.
We had snow today too. Hubby loves snow so he was looking at all the forecasts online and it doesn't look like it's going to stay but it was fun to watch.
Well hopefully I'll get back into more regular posting next week. Hope you all have a blessed weekend.